Marriage Life.

When I was young I used to think about what is marriage.

When I was teenage I used to go with my family in the marriage ceremonies. I used to think what is this marriage ? How two unknown persons can live together for the whole life. Then slowly slowly I started understanding the real meaning of marriage.

Marriage is where two souls becomes one. Marriage is where the husband promises to protect, to love his wife and to give all the happiness to his wife for the whole life. In return wife also promises her  husband that she would make him happy in all the senses and be with him in all his difficulties. Will be in true sense an “Aardhangini”.

But friends when we see this world the real meaning of marriage is no were we feel that the real meaning is vanishing and a practical relationship is taking its place. Friends in todays world marriage is just an agreement nothing else. When we see a couple in public places we feel that how happy they are in their married life. But when we peen into their personal life we come to know that it was only a showoff. A showoff to show the world that they are happy. Actually they had an agreement of showing every one that they are happy but in real sense they are not.

After marriage the expectations on both the sides starts increasing on both the sides. We first take the expectations of the husband : he whishes that his wife should take care of his family, friends and relatives. She should make him also happy and take care of their children. He doesn’t want to take any responsibility except to earn money. He starts thinking himself as the boos of her wife and starts bossing on her. He starts expecting that what he says his wife has to do by hook or by crook.

Now we move towards the expectations of wife : No doubt she is coming after leaving her fathers house so its obvious that she would have more expectations than his husband. She whould wish that she should be treated well in her house, she should get love and care, she should be treated well by her husband and his family and childrens, she should get respect from her husbands family, friends and childrens. Her husband should fulfill all her wishes.

But the main problem starts from this very expectations my friends, when the expectations are not fulfilled both of them becomes sad then they are irritated and finally they starts quarreling and lastly if its out of control then divorce or an agreement that they will show all others that they are really happy but from inside they don’t even like to see each others faces.

Friends, my question is, Is this the real marriage which we were thinking of when we were young or teenage ? No, my friends no. Then ? What is the remedy for this ?

The remedy is so simple if we think it properly. Try to adjust each other, give respect to each other, try to understand each others feelings. I am dam sure that there would be a real happy marriage life there after.

So my friends, try to implement and think it over this matter seriously and please if it is possible make others understand this very simple solution of making a marriage life truly happy.