No matter what life gives, enjoy it.

No Matter What Life Gives, Enjoy It

In the present world a common question which we hear frequently are of a commuter getting upset or hurt and then could not come out of the situation, we commonly hear from them are, “Life has become hard for me, I get hurt and upset and feel guilty that I am upset. I read books on self – help, but it is not really helping me.”

This has become a common thing in a present life. People gets hurt in a thing which can be neglected easily and then gets upset for their getting hurt. They then do not get out of the position as they do not see their own ability to come out of the position in which they have put themselves and are now getting hurt. They even don’t feel that the position in which they are in at present is merely a simple thing from which they can come out easily.

Now coming to the point of getting upset and then getting hurt. Getting upset is one thing but holding on the upset is yet another thing. To handle upset is one thing and energy to get stuck to that upset is yet another thing. But my question is Why ? Why do you hold on to the upsets and hurts ?

Most of the people gets upset with very small things and it depends on their own nature, if your nature is a negative nature than you will get upset very quickly or you will get hurt very quickly. You are upset, if you allow it to make you upset, without any internal wordings it will fade away in one or two minutes. But worrying about that upset is the disorder in which the mind is caught up.

One reality is also there in our society that in the matter of getting hurted and getting upset women are ahead of men. The main reason as discussed earlier is the tendency of holding it rather than handle it. Women have more tendency to be in this whirlpool then men. As they are mostly suffering from many things mentally such as, inferiority, superiority, ego, hatred etc, etc., ……… One most important thing is they don’t have the tendency to accept the things which are not from their thoughts. They can just accept the things which they think to be perfect and then when this does not happen they tend to get upset and gets hurt very quickly.

Now yet another question arises is that “Why do you not let go of the upset ?” There are so many genuine reasons for letting go the upsets of your mind. There are so many genuine emotions that are more meaningful to think over to be upset. Once you make up your mind for reliving the upsets of your life, you will find that it has been only a mechanical habit of your mind and nothing more than that.

The moment you are upset, just gently speak to yourself without any panic and say. “It is “OK”, I am upset. But I will understand it rather than being a victim to it.” When we will approach this gesture it will vanish, with a lesson. In the same way when you are badly hurt opt for the same way as you opt for upset. I bet you will surely develop good emotions.

For Example : If you are hurted by your best friend, wife, husband, collegue, or a family member. Just be calm, speak to yourself, think about the situation, think about the good and beautiful and happy moments spent together with in no time you will surely develop good attitude and emotions towards them. And you will surely find the same good attitude and emotions in them also. Give more reality and more life to that positive emotion and see your life enhancing.

-       Bhavesh Budh