An immotional fool

Immotions, feelings, are the words with deep meanings, these words are not of a normal meaning, these words consists of some words like, love, hatred, care, tensions for others etc., but they all have a very deep feeling and are philosophical words. These words when used are meant to be heartly said. It should be taken heartly as this words born out from heart and not from mind. The work of mind is to think, think practically and give a judgement and the mind always think practically and gives a judgement which does not see any thing whether it is harmful or not to anybody or some body who is close or even to the owner of that mind.

These words are now of no meaning or importance as the whole world is becoming practical. They have “No” time to listen to what the heart is trying to tell nor does they have time to sit a while and try to listen. Everybody today are in a race or they are in a stage where they don’t know really what they are doing or how they are living their life and the pitty is that they think they are the happiest person in the world. They think so because they have never peeped into their inner selves and tried to hear their inner voice they have just buried it deep inside from where the voice cant reach to their ears. If by mistake the voice reaches also then also it is immediately suppressed by the mind.

The opposite to this is the person living heartly, that is they live by listening to the heart and not to the mind. These peoples always listen to their heart and act as their heart says to them. No doubt that these people never prosper or gain any fame or any other materialistic wealth, they remain as they were and as they, their life goes on in a stable way.

The only benefit which they have against the others is they never envy others, they never  get frustrated not they become angry. They live in the same stage in happy or sorrow situation. It does not mean that they don’t have any feelings, they feel both happiness and sorrow but they very well know how to digest both the things.

The main characteristics of these persons is when they are sad they never saw how they feel. Instead they remain smiling and happy from outside and when they are happy really which is seldom they always spread it every where.

But as there are not so many of them they are considered as cheap and outdated personalities in this society. Everybody neglects them, uses them, humiliates them.

In short they are called :

“AN IMMOTIONAL FOOL”.

A born slave, dies slave

In olden times we know that there used to be slaves who used to work in the fields, houses of the landlords and rich peoples, these slaves were sold in the market in many countries, in olden days, of the world. The slaves had to spent all his life in slavery and his or her children were also being slaved from the early childhood.

This was the condition of the ancient world today such slaves are not bought or sold in the world except in some places but the slavery still exist in the world. These slavery is of different types. People are becoming slave of many things in present time.

This slavery is very dangerous than the slavery which used to prevail in the ancient times. As this slavery is of different kind. The present slavery is, as we can say, is a materialistic slavery, an immotional slavery, etc…….

In ancient times the slaves did not have any choice as they were caught and sold away and mostly they were the tribal peoples who were not literate. They only have to accept the situation and live as their owner’s command. But the present day peoples and in totally opposite condition they are well literate, they are not a tribal person but then also they are a slave. How ?

Friends, today’s people are slave of materialistic wealth and some are immotional slaves.

People long for all the materialistic wealth. People want to possess everything. And once they start possessing they slowly and steadily becomes slave they cannot do without the thing and becomes frustrated. Here the slave is born. For eg. : if a person once did not possessed a vehicle and used to go on foot everywhere but as soon as he possesses a vehicle he will gradually stop going on foot and will go on his owned vehicle and at last he would completely stop walking. This is called slavery and then till his last breath he would be a slave.

Another type of slavery prevailing is the immotional slavery. It is true that it is on in the same proportion as materialistic slavery, it is in a very less proportion as in present age immotional peoples are very less and they are called immotional fools. But friends it is prevailing in the society. This slavery hampers a persons own wish and will. He or she has to live as per others wish and act as per others will. The person is not allowed to say or express any of their wishes or could not act as per their own wishes if they do so they are immotionally suppressed by their own fellow beings and the flow of reasons of suppressing are also given immotionally.

Friends this stage of life is a stage where a person first of all starts to do as per others wish, he starts living as others want him to live and slowly and gradually he becomes habituated to that life inspite of his own thoughts and feelings which he / she has already started suppressing. Now the person is in that state the he / she is not in a state to speak or express his / her own thoughts or feelings this is a complete slavery which we can say is a mental or immotional slavery inspite of the person’s sound mind and intellectual.

In both this type of slavery a person is of a sound mind he is thoughtful and can think of his / her well being but materials or immotional things makes him / her a slave.

In material slavery a person enjoys his life inspite of being a slave but in immotional slavery the person is not able to do so.

Lastly I would just ask a simple question to my reader that is it true to be a slave of materials and is it true to suppress a person who lives immotionally ?

Thirsty person of desert

Friends, you all might be wondering why am I always writing on a topic which is not used frequently. I would clearify myself here that I love to think about the hidden facts of a human life.
A person whom we look, seems to be the happiest person of the world when looked for the first time or we see him or meet him many a times. But what is truth can't be seem or felt by just seeing or meeting him/her. We can't interpret anyone by just seeing or meeting. For interpreting a person we need to peep in his/her innerself. Then we can interpret the person exactly.
A person looking the happiest might ve the happiest person or it would be jst the opposite. In the whole world only humans have the ability to hide everything and some are expert in hiding their innerself. They are in short living two lives, one to show the world which is fake and the other what they actually are which is real. They generally hide their feelings, immotions, what they want, their longing, etc., etc.,
Friends if we take a simple example of love and happiness, the person who is able to hide will never show how much eager he is for receiving. Instead he will always be loving and careing for all those who r near to him. He will never let anyone know how he feels when he dosen't get what he is longing for. Then also he will always spread love and happiness to all.
Such person are in my opinion the sadest person in the world. They always spreads love and happiness to each and everyone, to such persons also who have shone very humilating attitude towards him but they themselves are deprived of such things. They are deprived of only a single moment in which they can feel heartly.
Such persons are called the "the thirsty person of desert" because in desert, a person dies due to thirst of water, similarly such a person dies longing for a single moment of love and happiness.

An unsuccessful person

Once there was a person living in a city, from the very childhood he was very sincere and hard working, dedicated to the family, always obidient, loving, caring, on the foot to fulfill the wishes of his dear onea. As time passed he tried his best to fulfill the wishes of his family and his dear ones. In this he forgot what his own life was and what were his own wishes, what typw of life he wished to live. In short he just became a commuter.
Friends, this is a common situation prevailing in a middle class family in our country. A boy who comes in this world has many wishes in his heart but when he is born in a middle class family he dosen't know, when he is young, that he will not be able to fulfill his dreams, which he is seeing in his young age, in this worryful world where he only has to do his duties and nothing els.
The culture of the family has made him learn to be dedicated towards duties and not towards own wishes. So he, when he grows up and becomes mature is always dedicated towards his duties and not towards his own dreams and wishes. He starts performing his duties and fulfull it at his best. He tries to make his family, beloved and frienda as happy as possible on the cost of his own wishes and lives happily and smiles always inspite of a crying heart beneath his ownself. Friends after all he is also a human being, he also has a heart which beats, which has some wishes, his mind thinks, he knows everything.
As time passes he suppress all his wishes beneath his duties and starts living in that manner. He tries to find happiness by fulfilling others wishes, expectations towards him.
But firends, its a pity that here he fails as this happiness is not in his fate when nobody understands him, nobody understands or sees what he is doing. Everybody is busy showing him his faults, neglecting what he is doing. No body sees that his heart is crying for happiness which is his right also. He also has the right to live happily in this world. Make his own life, his status, his relations, every thing. But he is not able to do so as he has to live according to others wishes and not as per his wish. Whenever he tries to live for himself even for a minute there are statements showing him his faults, abusing him, insulting him.
Its a pity that when a middle class person makes mistakes inspite of fulfilling all his duties, nobody gives a helping hand but everybody are eager to kik him, supress him and make him a slave, ignoring or neglecting their own mistakes. And the person happily without any rebel accepts all what he is sufferring from and again starts living.
This continues till he takes his last breath.
Finally, i would quote a sentence saied by a famous personality,
"Every body finds mistakes when a person is alive, when he is dead they don't find any mistakes in him."

Living with criticism

Once, there was a politician who did the best job he could. But being human, he made mistakes and was criticized. Reporters repeated his errors in the newspapers. He became so upset that he drove out into the country to visit his dear friend, a farmer. "What am I goind to do?" the politician cried, "I have tried so hard. Nobody has tried as hard as I to do maximum good for the people. But still, look, how they criticize me !"
But the old farmer could hardly hear te complaint of this persecuted politician friend, because his hound dog was barking at the full moon. The farmer rebuked the dog, but the dog kept barking. Finally, the farmer said to te friend; "Do you want to know how you should hadle your unfair critics ? Here's how. Look at this dog; now, look up at the moon. Remember that people will keep yelling at you, they will nip at your heels and they will criticize you. But here's the lesson :
THE DOG KEEPS BARKING, BUT THE MOON KEEPS SHINING.
Criticisms are bound to happen. But that does not mean that we should get disheartened and stop the good work we are doing. Often those who criticize each and everyone do not know the reality in full. If we are criticized for doing good, we should be happy about it. Ultimately the criticizers will meet defeat.
Remember that only those who try to do something will face criticism. Criticizers have no subject to point out about those who do not do anything. Therefore, it is better to be criticized after having done something than wasting time doing nothing. If our hands become as active as our tongue, what wonders could be accomplished in this world !
There is another way of looking at criticism. That is criticism which is constructive or helps others to grow and enable them to contribute better. This type of criticism comes from an attitude of concern and unselfishness. If understood and taken in the right perspective, it will produce better results.
Before criticizing anyone or their activity, one should evaluate properly and study seriously the subject matter he is going to deal with. Otherwise, his viewpoint will not hold water. Criticism in literature is of this sort.
Those who are criticized also should take sometime to check whether there is some truth in what others say or point out. If found correct, they should have the readiness and courage to accept the fact. If there is not truth in it, they should ignore it just as the barking of the dog at the full moon.
People are quick to praise and quick to blame. Therefore pay no heed to what others speak of you.
Criticism can be of two types constructive and destructive. Constructive criticism is positive and is a must for our growth. Such criticism comes from our benefactors and friends. They, by criticizing us, try to bring out the best in us. Their sole aim is our growth and development. But we must beware of the people who keep on praising us for whatever we do. Quite often they are not sincere and their words may not contribute to our growth. Their only aim is to get your attention and appreciation.
Destructive ceiticism aims at destroying you. It may be out of jealousy or even hatred. The people who are worried about your growth may ceiticize you with a view to block your growth. Some people are extremely skeptical and they doubt anything you do. Hence they criticize. They cannot see anything positive in our work and go on discouraging us. Such criticism is also destructive.
If we criticize somebody, please make sure that we are genuinely interested in their growth. Our criticism should not destroy or discourage people. Destructive criticism is nothing short of murder as it blocks a person's growth.
When somebody criticizes you, your response shoule be positive and constructive. You have to listen to them carefully and accept whatever is relevant and useful and try to make changes in your action and attitude accordingly. Don't be worried about who makes the criticism, but be consious of what is being criticized. Criticism is a part of our life and hence do not be discouraged or hurt. Such things are necessary for growth.

Living with gratitude

Once a fifty - feet whale was weighted down by hundreds of pounds of traps that caused her to struggle to stay afloat. She had hundreds of yards of line roap wrapped around her tail, and her torso and a line tugging in her mouth.
A fisherman spotted her and radioed an environmental group for help. Within a few hours, the rescue team arrived and determined that she was in a vad state; the only way to save her was to dive and untangle her. But it was a very dangerous work. One slap of the tail could kill a rescuer.
They worked for hours with curved knives and eventually freed her. When she was free, the divers say she swam ib what seemed like joyous circles. She then came back to each and every diver, one at a time, and nudged them, pushed them gently around. She was thanking them. Some of the divers said that it was the most incredibly beautiful experience of their lives. The man who cut the rope out of her mouth said that her eyes were following him the whole time, and he would never be the same.
Gratitude is the most beautiful and the noblest form of courtsey. The story of the greatful whale is very inspiring. If a whale can express its gratitude towards the people who saved it, how much more must man be thankful to the numerous people because of whom he is able to live a happy life. Man is intelligent and reasonable. He easily understands the sacrifice which other people makes for his well - being. But quite often he takes it for granted and doesn't feel the need of being grateful. How many of us will thank a ricksaw driver for taking us to the place we want to go ? How many of us feel that it is necessary to thank the people, who wash our clothes or clean our house ? If we prepare a list of people who help us to live easily, and in comfort, we will be surprised to see that our entire life is dependent upon other people. To satisfy our need, the toil and sacrifice of other people are needed. If we are aware of the fact, we will be greatful people and a greatful heart can only lead a happy life.
We are happy when other people thank us. Likewise, others also will be happy when we thank them. The normal tendency is to take things for granted. We seldom are ready to give credit to others for the achievements we made because of them. From the moment of our conception in our mother's womb till the moment of our departure from this world, we are dependent upon others. Our parents and teachers deserve life - long gratitude from us. In our day to day life we receive help from many people, some of them we may not even know. The soilders who guard our boundries risk their lives for our sake. Similarly, so many people work day and night to make life enjoyable for us.
Being grateful for graces we recive is the best way to forget our sufferings and shortcomings. There are many things which we don't have or are in badly need of. But there are many things which we already have. If we are disappointed because of the things we don't have, we will not be able to enjoy our life. But if we are concentrating on the things we have, we will be grateful to God and others, and we will be happy.
Hence let us count our blessings rather than our wounds. And thank God for putting roses among the thorns than complaining that God put thorns on roses. It is not sufficient always to be thankful. But we may have to express it. That is why it is written that "Unexpressed gratitude is like winking at someone in the dark. You know how you feel about them, but they don't."

Who am i ?

One day a philoshoper was walking down the street. He was lost in thought. Quite accidently he bumped into a man, who was walking along the same road. The philosopher did not stop, as he was still in deep thought. The man shouted, "Well, who do you think you are ?" The absent minded philosopher was heard to mubble, "who am I ? How i wish I knew ?"
This is a very interesting story. The philosopher did not know who he really was ! We all are very well trained to give the correct answer to the question "Who are you ?" But do our answer really reflect, the person, we are ? Quite often they do not. Because we are not our names. When I say that I am so and so, that does not fully explain who I really am. I may continue to explain : I am the son or daughter of Mr. so and so, this is my adress, I work here etc. But such phrases also do not explain our personality. In most of the cases we explain our physical features and other visible qualities. By our actions and behaviour, people may be able to understand a bit about our inner self. But again we are not what others think about us. Our parents, teachers, friends etc., may have some idea about us. And in most cases they may be true. But when it comes to an answer to the question "Who am I ?" all these ideas, knowledge, emotions and feelings need not give a perfect answer. Some people may describe themselves as happy, sad or worried. These emotions show the way they react to different situations in life.
Once a philoshopher said,"I am three persons : the persob I think I am, the person you think I am and the person I really am."
We are not always the persobs we think we are. Some of us will have very positive ideas about ourselves. Like a student who always says after his exams, thatvit was very easy and he would get distinction. But when the results are declared, it is quite contrary. In some other cases students are over worried about their result. They feel that they did not do well and they would fail. There are cases students taking the extreme step of even committing suicide. But when the result are out, they pass with good percentage. These and similar other examples show that our ideas and evaluation about everselves are not always correct. That means we are not always what we think we are.
As we form some ideas about ourselves, the people who live with us, or who are in touch with us also develop some ideas about us. It is always good to know others' opinion about ourselves. That will help ua to know ourselves more and more. A sincere friend can help us in many ways to find who we really are. And that will in turn help us to grow. But others' opinion also need not be true always. They can judge us only externally ; and cannot get a glimpse of our inner self. For that we have to turn to our own inner self. A critically evaluated and balanced understanding of our inner self is very essential for success in life. One has to know his or her own positive and negative qualities, weakness and strength, likes and dislikes and of course the talents and tastes. Confidence emerges from self knowledge. Quite often people pretend that they are great or respected people. Through pretension we may not acquire confidence or respect of other people. In every walk of life, self knowledge is the basis of success.
Understanding oneself is not an easy task. If we are aware, the strangeness of our behaviour will surprise us. Who do I like certain people, certain things, colours ? Why I respond to a sad news or to a happy one in a particular way ? What is my greatest weakness ? What are my positive qualities ? It could take montha and years to find answer to these questions.
Lack of self knowledge and awareness may cost us our very future. Especially if we fail to recognize our talents and potentials, we may not be able to live life in its fullness.
Many people continue to live in miserable condition because they do not know their true nature and hence they do not realize their potentials. Sadly they live on wishes and dreams. Had they recognized themselves and identified their weaknesses and strengths, they would have been different people today.