Living life with two faces

Once in a town there lived a person named Maniram, he lived with his family of a wife and two sons, Maniram was a learned person he had a nice and flourishing business in the town and had a good reputation. But Maniram had a draw back. He used to pretend of being the most learned person in the town which was not, as he pretended. Another thing which was peculiar in him was he used many faces in his life. For eg. : When he meet a person whom he hated the most, then also he smiled and greeted him as though he is the best friend of that person. Or a person with whom he is not interested to talk would talk with him very gracefully. All this things he did only to show off it was not from the heart.

In this world we meet such Manirams daily. They are the people who live their lives with two faces. One is the original face with which he or she is born with and the other is the face created by himself or herself. This is known as living a life with two faces.

There are no imotions or feelings or sympathy in such faces. They are simply a practicle face with many other faces on it. For eg. : Smiling face, an angry face, a loving face, etc., etc., all the expressions are fake just fake.

This type of people can’t have any such emotions at all. It seems that this type of heartly emotions are being extinct from the world. Now a days people don’t have any sympathy or love or feelings towards each other they just show off all this things. In short we can call them a perfect actor.

They show all this things for their personal benefits. There is no connection from the heart when they see that there is no benefit from a person they throw them away as we throw a pen whose ink is over. That is “use and throw” motive.

In olden age people use to meet each other heartly they welcome each other warmly but in present world it is not so. We are welcomed if we are going to give any benefit to them. We are warmly treated if there is any benefit to them. Relations are kept for benefit and not for any personal feelings or warmness or any other thing.

Lastly I would say that in olden age there were humans living on the earth who had hearts in them, in present age there are humans but they don’t have heart in them.

Success

The secret of success can be learnt from the life histories of successful people. If we identify and adopt the qualities of successful people, we too shall be successful. Similarly, there are characteristics common to people who aren’t successful. If we avoid those characteristics, then we shall not be failures. Success is no mystery. It is simply the result of consistently applying some basic principles. The reverse is just as true : Failure is simply a result of making a few mistakes repeatedly.

What makes a person successful ? To some people, success might mean wealth. To others, it is recognition, good health, a good family, satisfaction and peace of mind.  Success means different things to different people. “Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal.”

Here ‘progressive’ means that success is a journey, not a destination. We never complete our journey, after we reach a goal, we go on to next and the next and so on.

‘Realization’ means it is an experience. Outside forces cannot make us feel successful. We have to feel it within ourselves.

‘Worthiness’ refers to our value system, without which goals can be unworthy. Worthiness determines the quality of the journey. That is what gives meaning and fulfillment. Goals are important because they give us a sense of direction.

“I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.”

To be a person of success, we may have to encounter heart – breaking obstacles.

Once a biology teacher was teaching his students how a caterpillar turns into a butterfly.  He told the students, that in the next couple of hours, the butterfly would struggle to come out of the cocoon, but no one should help the butterfly. Then he left.

The students were waiting and it happened. The butterfly struggled to get out of the cocoon and against the advice of the teacher, one of the students took pity on it and decided to help the butterfly to come out of the cocoon. He broke the cocoon to help it, so that it didn’t have to struggle anymore. But, shortly afterwards, the butterfly died.

When the teacher returned, he was told what had happened. He explained to the student that it is a law of nature, that the struggle to come out of the cocoon actually helps the butterfly to develop and strengthen its wings.

Apply this same principle to our lives. No success in life comes without a struggle. Everything is difficult before it becomes easy. We cannot run away from our problem. Only losers quit and give up.

Childhood

The child who is dressed with prince’s robes,

And who has jewelled chains round his neck

Loses all pleasures in his play ;

His dress hampers him at every step.

In fear that it may be frayed, or stained with dust

He keeps himself from the world,

And is afraid even to move.

Mother, it is no gain, thy bondage of finery,

If it keeps on shut off,

From the healthful dust of the earth,

If it rob one of the right of entrance to the great fair

Of common human life.

This is the poem written by the great poet of India Rabindranath Tagore. He wants to convey the message to us that a child should enjoy the childhood by being close to the human beings and the mother earth.

You all will be thinking that I am in a mood to give the perafrace of the poems but friends you all are mistaken, no I am not in any such mood. I just want to share the same thought as Rabindranath Tagore had.

Friends, we all had our childhood and we all had enjoyed our own childhood very nicely. How happy we were when we all were young. As a child we use to enjoy each and every moment of our life. Even our parents, when they were young, enjoyed their childhood very much. We use to play the games like cricket, football, badminton, etc., wwe love to be with our friends, we use to quarrel with our friends but the next moment we also play together, we also use to play street games too very enthusiastically. We used to play with “Marbles”, “Gulli Danda”, and many such games in the streets. We were not afraid of getting hurt or getting durty by playing in the streets. I a true sence we enjoyed our childhood. As the poet has said we have been close to the mother earth and the human beings.

But the present generation, pitty to say, is not at all enjoying their childhood. They are just being living an isolated life. Isolated in the connection with the mother earth in connection with nature. I mean to say that as we had enjoyed our childhood they are not enjoying.

The present generation is afraid of playing in the streets and another thing is they are taking it as a cheap way to play. They instead play with in their house with the gadgets like video games.

Youngsters too are now not seen playing any games which helps them physically and mentally. Instead they have turned themselves to the gadgets. They are now busy with their “cell phones”.. In social media, like, Wats app, Facebook, Twitter, etc., etc.,,,,,

Here I would clear my self that m not against these things but is against the way they are using. Social media is a good thing which connects you to the world, to the peoples of the world, to the peoples of the world, to the peoples of the world, you come in contact with different peoples, different minds, different intellectuals of the world. It’s a positive aspect of this social media which should be adopted by the youngsters. But it’s a pity to say that they are not doing so, they just chat for nothing, surf for nothing. They just have groups which is chating useless things which gives adverse effects to the minds of the youngsters.

To end this topic here I would just say that we were very much happy in our childhood and young age in compare to the present generation, who are just saying and showing that they are very happy then we are.

Friends Forever

Can you imagine of a day without having any of your friends with you. It is very difficult. Every day interact with out friends. You might have heard the dictum : “A friend in need is a friend indeed.” We look towards our friends for comfort in times of distress in our life. A true friend stands by us in all times, in good times and bad times alike. One who leaves in time of peril is not a true friend.

A friendship is a cooperative and supportive relationship between two or more people. What does it take to a good friend ? There are different types of friendship that we will encounter in our lives. There are three known types of friendship : friendship for pleasure, friendship of utility, and friendship of virtue. Friendship can exist between : man – man, woman – woman, or man – woman. Some people even establish friendship with their pet animals. Friendship transcends age is possible between even old and young. Love is the binding force in true friendship.

A friend is a person who is able to love irrespective of whether he is being loved or not. Friends share mutual interests. They want what is best for the other. They show sympathy and honesty. They support and listen to each other. When we share a friendship with someone we are sharing ourselves.

It is said that true friends are like mirrors. Whenever we look at them we see ourselves. A true friend will be able to point out our abilities as well as our weaknesses to us just as in a mirror. Friendship is undboubtedly central to our lives. Our friends can help shape, who we are, as persons.

We can find three characteristics of friendship. They are : mutual caring (or love), intimacy, and shared activity. A necessary condition for friendship is that the friend cares about the other. Mutual caring implies sympathy and being moved by what happens to our friends to feel the appropriate emotions : joy in the friends’ success and disappointment in friends’ failure etc.

The intimacy in friendship is to be understood in terms of mutual self – disclosure. Such mutual self – disclosure creates the “bond of trust” essential to friendship. Shared activity is important because friends normally have shared interests as part of the intimacy and they engage in joint pursuits.

Friendship has individual and social values. Friendship is “life enhancing” it makes us “feel more alive”. It improves our activities by helping us to get fully involved in them. It helps promote self – esteem too. Friendship, and the resultant shared activities, it essentially involves, are needed to reinforce our intellectual and practical life.

The Downtrodans of the society

Friends,

Today, I want to share my thoughts with You all.

We see many things on TV in a day but we do not have the tendency to capture, what we should capture easily, good things telecast on the TV. Many channels telecast many such programmes which teaches us many such things which are almost forgotten in the present world. One such thing is humanity, love, respect. Humanity, love, respect towards that part of the society which is so called backward, poor, illiterate, by my dear friends after all they are also a part of our society which is almost forgotten by us. For Example, a person who is guarding and looking after our house, flat. We call them “Gurkhas” or “Chaukidars”. They also have a family, they also have childrens who are same as ours.

Friends, we sent our childrens to good schools, get them all the best facilities possible. We give them everything to make their life easy, to make them study and to make their future bright and happy. As we think all these for our child the “Gurkhas” or the “Chaukidar” too think of their child but the pity is they are not able to give all these things to their child as they are not capable of giving all these things.

Friends, these is not only with the “Gurkhas” or “Chaukidars” but all such persons who are not capable of giving any such things to their child do think and they feel sad when they are unable to give all these facilities, they feel sad when their child asks for these things, when they see other child who is of the same age and going to school with neat and clean uniform.

Isn’t it their fundamental right, which is given by the country’s constitution, to get education, to live a respectable life in the society, friends, it is their fundamental right to get better living standard and to get education but due to their incapability of fulfilling all these things they are devoid of these basic fundamental rights. In their day to day struggle of living they are not able to fulfill all those things which should be and must be fulfilled.

OK accepted that they are unable to fulfill those things and are unable to give all those things to their children which we give to ours.

Friends, My Question is “Is it not the duty of the society to think over this matter ?” “Can’t we do any thing for all those childrens who are devoid of all such facilities ?”

Here comes the main topic which I want to say is of Humanity, Love, Respect towards these peoples, towards these down trodans, towards those childrens who also has the right to be a respectful person of the society.

What is their fault ?, “Is it a fault that they are born in such a family who is uable to fulfill or to give their fundamental rights ?” or “Is it a fault that they are born in such a society who is selfish and self poised ?”

And after that when these childrens grow up and become an anti – social person we will hate all such persons and will think that they are illiterate so thay tend towards anti – social activities. But friends, “Is it not our fault to think so ?” Because if we had just adopted any one child and if we had given him or her at least the education which is his or her fundamental right perhaps we would stop him or her to take any such anti social path.

So, today, friends, let us think of it seriously and try to atleast give education to atleast one such child.

Love : The Real and Literal Meaning

Love, Pyaar, Ishq, Muhoobat, this word has a very wide and deep meaning, it is a spiritual word. Love refers to a variety of different feelings, states and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal feelings, affections to pleasure. It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment. It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection – “The unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”. It may also describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one’s self or animals.

A living creature is able to love anything personal or impersonal existing on this earth. Human beings specially can express their love in acts or by speech. Love can be of different types, materialistc love, spiritual love, love towards a living thing, etc., etc., etc., ……..

A person can be said to love an object, principle, or a goal to which they are deeply committed and greatly valued. It may sometimes be born not of inter personal love but impersonal love, altruism, or strong spiritual or political convictions. People can also love material objects, animals or activities of they invest themselves in bonding or otherwise identifying with those things.

Love between human beings refer to interpersonal love. It is more potent sentiment than a simple liking for another. Unrequited love refers to those feelings of love that are not reciprocated. Interpersonal love is most closely associated with interpersonal relationship. Such love might exist between family members, friends and couples. There are also a number of psychological disorders related to love.

Throughout history, philosophy and religion have done the most speculation on the phenomenon of love. In the last century, the science of psychology has written a great deal on the subject. In recent years, the science of psychology, anthropology, neuroscience and biology have added to the understanding of the nature and function of love.

Indian mythology too have given some information about love, here some information refers to the understanding of the present generation, as said in the beginning love has a very deep meaning. We have heard the story of Lord Krishna and Radha which is an immortal love. In this case we can say that tow souls are in love. But commonly it is not understood as the meaning of love in the present time is physical love which includes two bodies, frankly speaking in present time the true meaning of love has vanished and a new meaning has came into existence.

It is fact that, “It is easy to fall in love, but it is hard to be in love.” Here our talk is limited to the interpersonal love of a teenage girl and a boy. We are not discussing any other type of love.

In the present age the word love is meant only with external attachment and not with the internal matter. Today anybody who says that “I love you” has just an intimacy with reference to the external matter. There is no internal attachment associated with the sentence.

It is a pity to say that in the present times the word “Love” is being used for only external intimacy and not for the internal attachment while “love” is meant really for the internal attachment and not for the external intimacy

Life of a Joker

Joker, “A person who plays Jokes.” A person who makes laugh by making ususual things, a person who does mimicry, on of the two extra card in the pack of playing card.

Has anyone ever thought what is the life of a joker, what is there behind that smile, behind that attitude, has anyone thought why the joker always laughs in public and makes others laugh too. No, nobody has ever thought. We all laugh at his deeds and claps on it, but never thought of his life.

The joker is also a human being he is also a feeling full person. He also has his own feelings and imotions but he only laughs and makes other laugh too. Why does he does so ? why ? Is he hiding something ? Some sorrow or graviance or so ?

There are many people in this world who cant express their sorrow or graviance but can feel them they could not fight for their own sorrow with others who have hurted them or have played a cheap game of life with them. But the fact is they are hurted very much hurted from inside, they could not speak, could not express, but they feel it from the heart and on repeating all this sorrow and gravience, one day they start acting abstractly, they hide their sorrows int heir smile, in their silence. One more fact of life is that inspite of being severly hurted a person is expected to live happily with a smiling face in the society. But the society forgets one thing that the person is a human being and not a robot. They also have feelings. They also have all the rights to express everything.

We all see Jokers playing tricks in the circus but there are many such persons who just simply act like a joker in their normal life and hide all their sorrows beneath their smile. They make very one happy but from inside they are too sad and hurted but never ever let anybody know their sorrow or the reason, the true reason of their sorrow, they just smile and smile and smile. Ins hort they truly live for others. In this diplomatic world also they live for others, the world which is full of practical and diplomatic human beings. The world where there is no place for imotions or feelings of heart. All the imotions and feelings are from mind.

In this world the joker is living a true life in a sence that he or she makes others happy and make them smiling.

Lastly, I would just say that, “A Joker is not born by birth, the Joker is born by a society as a whole.”