Mistakes of life

In this world there  cant be any such human being who is completely fault less. Each  and every person  in this world has committed some mistakes in his  life or her life.
Mistakes are natural in life, some becomes stable in their life, some dosn't, but does  it mean that the person who couldn't  be stable after  many mistakes is a person who loves to do mistakes ? Isnt it possible that he or she is trying to be stable but no one is trying to see it. Or they just dont want to see  that he or she is trying to be  stable ?  Or they dont want him or her to be stable ?
We dont know who the person is, how is his or her life style, how is his nature ? We are unaware of all this things bcoz even thw person who is staying together would not predict or know what the other is facing. Or sometimes they dont care to know all these things, or everytime they thinks the same. The reason is simple they think they are perfect and what they do is always perfect and right, they never commit any mistake bcoz they are perfect.
But is this true ? Are they perfectly faultless ? Never have  they committed any mistakes in their life ? Mistake is mistake small or big.
Now the question arises is that "Do such persons have any right to correct any other person who also commits mistakes ?"
Is it not possible that the thing which they are considering as mistakes might not be any mistake at all ?
For eg. : A person has cheated another for 1000 rs. Now we will say that its a mistake of ethics. One should not cheat anybody. But friends do we know thw reason for cheating ? Perhaps the person who has committed this mistake may have tried a loot to gain money ethically but could not gain it. He or she was trying n doing for his or her family. After lots of try n hard work he finally cheated. Cheated for his or her family who had not eaten a single bite of bread since last few days. Now if this is the reason, has that person committed a mistake ?
In this practicle and autocratic world a person with immotions and thinking with heart  is a person full of mistakes. Is it true ? Can't a person be immotional or cant a person think or act with his heart ?
My friends, I cant understand what actually is a mistake ? Can anybody please help me to understand this word "mistake" ??

USE AND THROW

We use many materials now a days in our routine life, such as pen, pencil, rubber, gadgets, etc,....., all this things are useful for a certain period of time. For eg., pen is useful to us until it writes as soon as the ink in the pen is over will not write, a gadget, for eg., a cell phone, it is useful to us untill the features are new, as soon as a new version is available in the market the present one will become outdated.
All this things which becomes useless, we don't keep it with us, we just throw them in garbej or in a dustbin. Am I right my dear friends ?
But now a days one more thing is being used and thrown away and that are human beings, shoked ? It is true my dear friends, that now a days human beings are also been used and when  they are used totally they are thrown away.
Human beings are now a days used in many ways, they are used for a specific work. For eg., a contractor uses the worker for construction work, an industrialiast uses a worker for industrial work, etc., etc.,...... but friends here we talk about use and throw, so comming back to the point all this human beings which are at work, if they work for others personal interest and are given proper reward then they are not used and thrown in real sense. But if they are not given any reward and are simply removed and neglected then in real sense they are "USED AND THROWN".
Friends think and mark around you, the other ways where the human beings are "USED AND THROWN", as if they are of no use or they are equal to a "garbej" or "waste".
Friends, lastly I would like to ask u that if anybody helps you or does any work on behalf of you is it so they afterwards they are meant for "USE AND THROW" ?

An immotional fool

Immotions, feelings, are the words with deep meanings, these words are not of a normal meaning, these words consists of some words like, love, hatred, care, tensions for others etc., but they all have a very deep feeling and are philosophical words. These words when used are meant to be heartly said. It should be taken heartly as this words born out from heart and not from mind. The work of mind is to think, think practically and give a judgement and the mind always think practically and gives a judgement which does not see any thing whether it is harmful or not to anybody or some body who is close or even to the owner of that mind.

These words are now of no meaning or importance as the whole world is becoming practical. They have “No” time to listen to what the heart is trying to tell nor does they have time to sit a while and try to listen. Everybody today are in a race or they are in a stage where they don’t know really what they are doing or how they are living their life and the pitty is that they think they are the happiest person in the world. They think so because they have never peeped into their inner selves and tried to hear their inner voice they have just buried it deep inside from where the voice cant reach to their ears. If by mistake the voice reaches also then also it is immediately suppressed by the mind.

The opposite to this is the person living heartly, that is they live by listening to the heart and not to the mind. These peoples always listen to their heart and act as their heart says to them. No doubt that these people never prosper or gain any fame or any other materialistic wealth, they remain as they were and as they, their life goes on in a stable way.

The only benefit which they have against the others is they never envy others, they never  get frustrated not they become angry. They live in the same stage in happy or sorrow situation. It does not mean that they don’t have any feelings, they feel both happiness and sorrow but they very well know how to digest both the things.

The main characteristics of these persons is when they are sad they never saw how they feel. Instead they remain smiling and happy from outside and when they are happy really which is seldom they always spread it every where.

But as there are not so many of them they are considered as cheap and outdated personalities in this society. Everybody neglects them, uses them, humiliates them.

In short they are called :

“AN IMMOTIONAL FOOL”.

A born slave, dies slave

In olden times we know that there used to be slaves who used to work in the fields, houses of the landlords and rich peoples, these slaves were sold in the market in many countries, in olden days, of the world. The slaves had to spent all his life in slavery and his or her children were also being slaved from the early childhood.

This was the condition of the ancient world today such slaves are not bought or sold in the world except in some places but the slavery still exist in the world. These slavery is of different types. People are becoming slave of many things in present time.

This slavery is very dangerous than the slavery which used to prevail in the ancient times. As this slavery is of different kind. The present slavery is, as we can say, is a materialistic slavery, an immotional slavery, etc…….

In ancient times the slaves did not have any choice as they were caught and sold away and mostly they were the tribal peoples who were not literate. They only have to accept the situation and live as their owner’s command. But the present day peoples and in totally opposite condition they are well literate, they are not a tribal person but then also they are a slave. How ?

Friends, today’s people are slave of materialistic wealth and some are immotional slaves.

People long for all the materialistic wealth. People want to possess everything. And once they start possessing they slowly and steadily becomes slave they cannot do without the thing and becomes frustrated. Here the slave is born. For eg. : if a person once did not possessed a vehicle and used to go on foot everywhere but as soon as he possesses a vehicle he will gradually stop going on foot and will go on his owned vehicle and at last he would completely stop walking. This is called slavery and then till his last breath he would be a slave.

Another type of slavery prevailing is the immotional slavery. It is true that it is on in the same proportion as materialistic slavery, it is in a very less proportion as in present age immotional peoples are very less and they are called immotional fools. But friends it is prevailing in the society. This slavery hampers a persons own wish and will. He or she has to live as per others wish and act as per others will. The person is not allowed to say or express any of their wishes or could not act as per their own wishes if they do so they are immotionally suppressed by their own fellow beings and the flow of reasons of suppressing are also given immotionally.

Friends this stage of life is a stage where a person first of all starts to do as per others wish, he starts living as others want him to live and slowly and gradually he becomes habituated to that life inspite of his own thoughts and feelings which he / she has already started suppressing. Now the person is in that state the he / she is not in a state to speak or express his / her own thoughts or feelings this is a complete slavery which we can say is a mental or immotional slavery inspite of the person’s sound mind and intellectual.

In both this type of slavery a person is of a sound mind he is thoughtful and can think of his / her well being but materials or immotional things makes him / her a slave.

In material slavery a person enjoys his life inspite of being a slave but in immotional slavery the person is not able to do so.

Lastly I would just ask a simple question to my reader that is it true to be a slave of materials and is it true to suppress a person who lives immotionally ?

Thirsty person of desert

Friends, you all might be wondering why am I always writing on a topic which is not used frequently. I would clearify myself here that I love to think about the hidden facts of a human life.
A person whom we look, seems to be the happiest person of the world when looked for the first time or we see him or meet him many a times. But what is truth can't be seem or felt by just seeing or meeting him/her. We can't interpret anyone by just seeing or meeting. For interpreting a person we need to peep in his/her innerself. Then we can interpret the person exactly.
A person looking the happiest might ve the happiest person or it would be jst the opposite. In the whole world only humans have the ability to hide everything and some are expert in hiding their innerself. They are in short living two lives, one to show the world which is fake and the other what they actually are which is real. They generally hide their feelings, immotions, what they want, their longing, etc., etc.,
Friends if we take a simple example of love and happiness, the person who is able to hide will never show how much eager he is for receiving. Instead he will always be loving and careing for all those who r near to him. He will never let anyone know how he feels when he dosen't get what he is longing for. Then also he will always spread love and happiness to all.
Such person are in my opinion the sadest person in the world. They always spreads love and happiness to each and everyone, to such persons also who have shone very humilating attitude towards him but they themselves are deprived of such things. They are deprived of only a single moment in which they can feel heartly.
Such persons are called the "the thirsty person of desert" because in desert, a person dies due to thirst of water, similarly such a person dies longing for a single moment of love and happiness.

An unsuccessful person

Once there was a person living in a city, from the very childhood he was very sincere and hard working, dedicated to the family, always obidient, loving, caring, on the foot to fulfill the wishes of his dear onea. As time passed he tried his best to fulfill the wishes of his family and his dear ones. In this he forgot what his own life was and what were his own wishes, what typw of life he wished to live. In short he just became a commuter.
Friends, this is a common situation prevailing in a middle class family in our country. A boy who comes in this world has many wishes in his heart but when he is born in a middle class family he dosen't know, when he is young, that he will not be able to fulfill his dreams, which he is seeing in his young age, in this worryful world where he only has to do his duties and nothing els.
The culture of the family has made him learn to be dedicated towards duties and not towards own wishes. So he, when he grows up and becomes mature is always dedicated towards his duties and not towards his own dreams and wishes. He starts performing his duties and fulfull it at his best. He tries to make his family, beloved and frienda as happy as possible on the cost of his own wishes and lives happily and smiles always inspite of a crying heart beneath his ownself. Friends after all he is also a human being, he also has a heart which beats, which has some wishes, his mind thinks, he knows everything.
As time passes he suppress all his wishes beneath his duties and starts living in that manner. He tries to find happiness by fulfilling others wishes, expectations towards him.
But firends, its a pity that here he fails as this happiness is not in his fate when nobody understands him, nobody understands or sees what he is doing. Everybody is busy showing him his faults, neglecting what he is doing. No body sees that his heart is crying for happiness which is his right also. He also has the right to live happily in this world. Make his own life, his status, his relations, every thing. But he is not able to do so as he has to live according to others wishes and not as per his wish. Whenever he tries to live for himself even for a minute there are statements showing him his faults, abusing him, insulting him.
Its a pity that when a middle class person makes mistakes inspite of fulfilling all his duties, nobody gives a helping hand but everybody are eager to kik him, supress him and make him a slave, ignoring or neglecting their own mistakes. And the person happily without any rebel accepts all what he is sufferring from and again starts living.
This continues till he takes his last breath.
Finally, i would quote a sentence saied by a famous personality,
"Every body finds mistakes when a person is alive, when he is dead they don't find any mistakes in him."

Living with criticism

Once, there was a politician who did the best job he could. But being human, he made mistakes and was criticized. Reporters repeated his errors in the newspapers. He became so upset that he drove out into the country to visit his dear friend, a farmer. "What am I goind to do?" the politician cried, "I have tried so hard. Nobody has tried as hard as I to do maximum good for the people. But still, look, how they criticize me !"
But the old farmer could hardly hear te complaint of this persecuted politician friend, because his hound dog was barking at the full moon. The farmer rebuked the dog, but the dog kept barking. Finally, the farmer said to te friend; "Do you want to know how you should hadle your unfair critics ? Here's how. Look at this dog; now, look up at the moon. Remember that people will keep yelling at you, they will nip at your heels and they will criticize you. But here's the lesson :
THE DOG KEEPS BARKING, BUT THE MOON KEEPS SHINING.
Criticisms are bound to happen. But that does not mean that we should get disheartened and stop the good work we are doing. Often those who criticize each and everyone do not know the reality in full. If we are criticized for doing good, we should be happy about it. Ultimately the criticizers will meet defeat.
Remember that only those who try to do something will face criticism. Criticizers have no subject to point out about those who do not do anything. Therefore, it is better to be criticized after having done something than wasting time doing nothing. If our hands become as active as our tongue, what wonders could be accomplished in this world !
There is another way of looking at criticism. That is criticism which is constructive or helps others to grow and enable them to contribute better. This type of criticism comes from an attitude of concern and unselfishness. If understood and taken in the right perspective, it will produce better results.
Before criticizing anyone or their activity, one should evaluate properly and study seriously the subject matter he is going to deal with. Otherwise, his viewpoint will not hold water. Criticism in literature is of this sort.
Those who are criticized also should take sometime to check whether there is some truth in what others say or point out. If found correct, they should have the readiness and courage to accept the fact. If there is not truth in it, they should ignore it just as the barking of the dog at the full moon.
People are quick to praise and quick to blame. Therefore pay no heed to what others speak of you.
Criticism can be of two types constructive and destructive. Constructive criticism is positive and is a must for our growth. Such criticism comes from our benefactors and friends. They, by criticizing us, try to bring out the best in us. Their sole aim is our growth and development. But we must beware of the people who keep on praising us for whatever we do. Quite often they are not sincere and their words may not contribute to our growth. Their only aim is to get your attention and appreciation.
Destructive ceiticism aims at destroying you. It may be out of jealousy or even hatred. The people who are worried about your growth may ceiticize you with a view to block your growth. Some people are extremely skeptical and they doubt anything you do. Hence they criticize. They cannot see anything positive in our work and go on discouraging us. Such criticism is also destructive.
If we criticize somebody, please make sure that we are genuinely interested in their growth. Our criticism should not destroy or discourage people. Destructive criticism is nothing short of murder as it blocks a person's growth.
When somebody criticizes you, your response shoule be positive and constructive. You have to listen to them carefully and accept whatever is relevant and useful and try to make changes in your action and attitude accordingly. Don't be worried about who makes the criticism, but be consious of what is being criticized. Criticism is a part of our life and hence do not be discouraged or hurt. Such things are necessary for growth.